A Man is not a Financial Plan

Have you seen the Netflix Dirty John: The Betty Broderick story?

There’s a line in the third episode (I think) where Betty asks Dan (who is having an affair) to leave their family home and, in a nutshell, he shoots back that she’s the one that needs to leave because he pays for everything.

Like what the AF?! 

Now I appreciate it was the 80s, but this stiiiiiiill happens. 

I know some of you know my story, my Property Girl WHY – my mission to get as many kind-hearted, beautiful women like you investing in property, is personal to me. If it wasn’t for my financial independence, I’d have most likely been stuck in an extremely abusive relationship, merely existing and surviving. It took its toll on me mentally and emotionally, but I got out. I’ve always seen myself as one of the lucky ones because I had the resources to eventually free myself and rebuild my life.  

But….

There are far too many women that feel they have no choice but to stay in abusive or unhappy relationships because they just don’t have the financial independence from their partners.  

I’m not saying that what happened to me could happen to you. I never, in a million years thought I’d find myself in the situation I did. I thought I was too switched on, smart, aware…..but the reality is, it can happen to anyone.

And when 42% of marriages in England and Wales end in divorce (Ouch!), you cannot rely solely on your partner for your future financial security. It leaves you exposed and vulnerable. And with fewer options at the beginning of a relationship, during and after, if a split happens.

What’s more, the average UK divorce age is 43.9 for women. According to research from Fidelity International, 56% of married women do not have a ‘Plan B’ when it comes to their future financial planning/retirement. Women often have fewer assets because they’ve taken time out from their careers to raise children, which means lower salary and a smaller pension pot.

This needs to change.

 Let me ask you this….

What would happen if you relied solely on your man for financial support and then one day, he decided he no longer wanted to be with you?

Where would you go? 

What would you do? 

How would you survive? 

It’s lovely to think you’d be looked after, that you’d find some amicable resolution, but life can be very different when the shit hits the fan. I know. It took me five years (and a lot of heartache, money and energy) to financially free myself.

Further research from Fidelity International indicates that almost two in five divorced women (39%) regret not maintaining greater financial self-sufficiency. I don’t want you to be a part of this statistic, especially because you have the opportunity to do something about it.

So I guess the question is, are you really willing to take the risk?

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to have to ask anyone permission to live my life as I choose, nor do I want to dim my light or play small to make a relationship work (ish). I’ve been there and done that and it’s just not fun.

Relying on someone else financially means that you are placing your life now and in the future in someone else’s hands. And let’s face it, who knows if they’ll even be any good at it?  

Therefore, it’s time we jump with both feet into our power, realise our potential, assert our independence and unapologetically design our lives EXACTLY as we want them, up level, embrace the freedom and evolve and flourish into the incredible bass ass women we are. 

I’ve worked with women who have found the strength and courage to leave unhappy relationships because they’d invested in property. It meant they felt supported, secure and confident in the decision they were making because (and in their words) they always knew they had somewhere to go. Even if it’s not needed, it gives you certainty, it feels safe to make the move and it gives you a belief that everything will be ok. That is how powerful property is.

This isn’t a plan so you can forever stay single. This is more mindful future planning to feel safe, secure and better able to make good and beneficial, high vibey decisions about your life, including relationships.

It’s time to take charge of your own destiny and make the most of this incredible thing called life. Live it freely, soul lit, heart on fire, with love because girl, you only get one shot at it. You have to do it well.

No one should have to stay in a shitty relationship because they are financially tied to that person. No one should have their life dictated by someone else, because they hold all the (credit/debit) cards. And no one should feel like they can’t live the life they really want because someone is dimming their light. 

 So, basically what I’m saying is this... 

Girl, a man cannot be your financial plan.

YOU are your financial plan.

With financial freedom comes independence, and by extension, options and choices to really truly live a life that you want without compromise. 

And you know what, it’s infectious. It has the most incredible ripple effect. Just watch what happens around you once you take the leap of faith and make moves to assert your financial fabulousness.

You and I are more than capable of using our bloody awesome minds and making magical, wonderful things happen in our lives and being in control of our financial independence, freedom and future.  

So gorgeous girl,

Make the decision to step into your power and determine how your life is going to look. 

 Get out there and handle your finances like the queen you are... and if you’re making the decision to take control right now, (I’m so excited for you and have totally got your back) by investing in property, you NEED my Starter Kit. 

You’re going to LOVE it – it’ll help you feel capable, empowered, ready and in control to start this next, brand spanking new chapter in your life and go after your dreams to live an abundant, soul lit life and change your world and the world you live in, one property at a time. Don’t let someone else determine your destiny.  

Hit the pink button below and get control of your financial fabulousness today.